"The mind is everything. What you think you become" Budha

Introduction

Health

I wanted to dive into a topic that holds immense importance, not just for men's mental health, but for anyone seeking to unlock their true potential. I will talk about the incredible power of self-talk and acceptance, inspired by Shad Helmstetter's book, "What to Say When You Talk to Yourself." But I won't stop there – I will also share insights from my book, "From Burnout to Bliss: The Ultimate 90-Day Guide for Emotional and Mental Abundance." In the spirit of Mental Health Month for men, which takes place in November, I will also touch upon personal experiences, and the journey of self-discovery.

The Heart of Acceptance

Self-Talk and Its Influence

Before we get too deep, let's let's take a moment to consider something universal: our self-talk.. You know, the things we say in our heads "our inner dialogue". It's the ongoing conversation we have with ourselves, and as Shad Helmstetter eloquently suggests, it lies at the core of "acceptance." Our inner dialogue holds the power to shape our perceptions of life's challenges.

The Power to Choose

In my book, "From Burnout to Bliss," I wholeheartedly agree with Shad Helmstetter's message. I emphasise that acceptance is not merely about enduring tough times; it's about gently realising that you possess the power to choose how you interpret and respond to those moments.

Acceptance means recognising that there will be moments in life when we face adversity. However, it's crucial to understand that the way we perceive these situations is entirely within our control. Only YOU have the power to choose whether to let circumstances work against you or to view them from a different perspective.

The question is, are you going to let the "Emotional Monkey" takeover?

Dean's Journey to Acceptance

Let's take a tender pause to reflect on my husband Dean's journey, who has a chronic life changing back injury, and often used to hear a lot about "acceptance," especially from his pain management team. While the advice was well-intentioned, it lacked practical side of things. It was only when he discovered Helmstetter's book that he experienced a gentle awakening. After being asleep metephorically since 2017, Dean has finally woken up. He can see a future, which is beyond the four walls of our living room. It's just the beginning of his journey of recovery, and yet I can already see a light in his eyes, that I have not seen in many years. Dean's journey shows us that when we really get what acceptance means, it can be a game-changer. This beautifully underscores the transformative potential of acceptance when it is tenderly comprehended and applied.

The Pitfall of Reactivity

The React vs. Respond Dilemma

In "From Burnout to Bliss," I highlight the importance of distinguishing between reacting and responding. Reactivity robs us of our true selves and leads to frustration. It's a vicious cycle that prevents us from realising our full potential, regardless of our efforts. Whilst, responding, on the other hand, empowers us to navigate life's challenges with tenderness, compassion and resilience.

The Wheel of (Mis)-Fortune

The concept of the "Wheel of (Mis)-Fortune," symbolising our reactive responses. When we operate from a reactive stance, we inadvertently contribute to the "wheel of misfortune." This wheel perpetuates a cycle of unhappiness and unfulfilment, blocking our path to becoming our best selves. It's this wheel that keeps us trapped in negativity, leading to burnout and unhappiness. Through the book, I offer gentle guidance on how to break free from this pattern and discover our path to abundance, and shape the "Wheel of Fortune"

Embracing the Wheel of Fortune

The Inner Journey: A Gentle Exploration

To break free from the wheel of misfortune, we must begin by looking within ourselves. "From Burnout to Bliss" emphasises the significance of tenderly looking within ourselves. It's in this gentle exploration that we find the key to genuine acceptance and the ability to respond, rather than react, to life's challenges.

Making the Choice: A Gentle Decision

Acceptance involves making a conscious choice. It's choosing to be in control of a situation rather than feeling powerless. When we make this shift, we gain the power to respond in a way that aligns with our true selves. This choice lies at the heart of unlocking our potential and experiencing true abundance.

Thriving in Abundance to Unlock Our Full Potential

This journey takes us from that wheel of misfortune to a whole different ride – the “Wheel of Fortune”. As we become the architects of our own lives, we start thriving like never before, we tap into emotional and mental abundance, and can reach our full potential.

Shad Helmstetter's words serve as a gentle reminder that our self-talk is at the heart of "acceptance." It's a message that resonates softly with the principles discussed in "From Burnout to Bliss."

Wrapping It Up

So, in a nutshell, self-talk and acceptance are like superpowers. The power of self-talk and acceptance cannot be overstated. Dean's story proves that when we really understand and apply them, we can respond to life instead of reacting, and this can be life-changing. This Mental Health Month for men, let us remember that genuine acceptance empowers us to respond, not react, and to show up as our authentic selves. It's the key to unlocking our full potential and thriving in every aspect of life.

Got Questions?

How can I start practicing acceptance in my daily life?

Start by listening to your inner chatter. When those negative thoughts pop up, make a mental note of them or write them down. Then see how you can reframe them, with positive ones. It's a simple but powerful first step.

Are there any practical exercises to improve self-talk and acceptance?

Yes, there are various exercises and techniques, such as mindfulness meditation and journaling, that can help you improve self-talk and cultivate acceptance.

Is this advice only for men, or can anyone benefit from it?

While we're focusing on men's mental health here, these principles work for everyone. Self-talk and acceptance know no gender boundaries.

How long does it take to see results?

The timeline varies for each person. Some folks might see changes quickly, while others might need more time and effort. Keep at it, and you'll get there.

Is there a community or support network for those on a journey to mental abundance?

I strongly encourage readers to seek out support groups, forums, or workshops that focus on these principles. Connecting with others on a similar journey can provide invaluable support and motivation.

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In a world that can be a real whirlwind, learning to handle life's ups and downs with grace and resilience is priceless. Through self-talk and acceptance, we can truly transform ourselves and our mental well-being. It's an adventure worth embarking on, leading to a brighter and more fulfilling future.